The look didn't work, however, requiring Charlotte to pull me aside and suggest that I focus more on Grover Cleveland, the subject of my Masters thesis and upcoming Ph. "I need to keep you focused and ask if you’re paying attention most of the time. daydreaming of Grover Cleveland or other things," she explained.As a result, one of the chief pieces of advice that Charlotte gave for other people who are dating autistic individuals is that they need to learn how to adapt to being involved with someone who won't always pick up on nonverbal communication cues and will struggle with other forms of basic socialization.
Indeed, my first article published at Salon discussed autism and dating. When my writing career began in 2012, I never dreamed that I would open up about being on the autism spectrum, much less delve into the vulnerable details of my personal life.
When you have an invisible disability, the first challenge is getting other people to believe you — to encourage them to express empathy for someone else.
After that, though, you need to learn to listen to how your disability may negatively impact them — that is, to show the very empathy for others that you insist on receiving.
Yet the subject proved popular and was cathartic to discuss, so I periodically returned to it over the years. On that day, I entered a long-term relationship with my current girlfriend, Charlotte.
It took me awhile to develop the nerve to ask her about what she has learned while dating an autistic man, with what is colloquially known as Asperger's Syndrome.