Deciding if I want to share my life with someone takes me way more than a handful of dates.
I’ve rushed into relationships many times before and that’s obviously never ended well.
To make yourself a better partner, think about your past relationships.
Other times you really like someone and it doesn’t work out, and you’ve probably wondered if there was anything you could’ve done differently.
This time around I made a promise to myself to slow things down and go at my own pace – though that’s not always easy for me to speak up about and communicate to the men that come into my life. But I couldn’t put his feelings above my own and end up in relationship I was not truly ready for.
Recently a man I’d been dating asked me to be his girlfriend, and at the time I had to say no. As awkward as the conversation was to have, I explained to him my current fears about labels and seriously serious commitments.
It’s no longer just about feelings and lust – there are so many other factors involved in my choosing a partner because my son’s future is at stake too.Casually dating meant I didn’t have to worry about getting my heart broken, giving up my freedom or introducing anyone to my son.At a certain point though I grew bored of all the me-time and hook-ups.I told him how I felt about him and reassured him that I was dating him exclusively, but I was also honest about the fact that I needed more time to get to know him before I was going to be comfortable enough to enter into a full-blown relationship.Despite my thinking he’d end things, my hesitation didn’t scare him off. He was willing to continue being exclusive without being able to call me his girlfriend yet.