I'd rather take what I have than risk not having his precious friendship.
If he doesn't want to be with you like that -- if he has turned you from wife into platonic best friend -- well, yes, it's going to sting. You can feel safe knowing that whatever happens, this man adores you.It would take a great deal of counseling and work in the relationship to prove the adulterer or abuser is trustworthy and safe.The children are one of the biggest reasons why some people don't get divorced and is also a factor in getting back together.When it all gets too confusing, you remind yourself what those last couple years of marriage were like. Adrift on a sea of self-hatred which you direct at each other, self-medicating with food and alcohol and excellent TV series binges. Like riding in a fast-moving car without a seat belt. He says things to you no man has ever said, he romances you like nobody ever has. You’re supposed to keep writing about all of it but you don’t know what to write because it’s all so confusing. But you’re determined to move forward because if you’ve learned one thing in the past year it’s that life is finite and you don’t want to waste another second of it wallowing in an unhealthy relationship that three children are viewing from front row seats. Yes, he knows all the buttons to push to flood you with rage but he also knows that you would far prefer wildflowers to roses and Doritos to chocolates on Valentine’s Day. Should you continue to share because, again, this is something a lot of people can relate to and you’ve had such a positive experience with readers thus far in your journey?