DON’T go in acting like your date automatically notices your eating behavior. If you draw attention to the fact that you eat like a bird, and make that a note of importance, yes you’ll get questions about it.On the other hand, if you go in like everything is ok…nothing to see here…most likely your date is more into you than what is or isn’t on your plate. As I said before, guys who order frugally can seem cheap. Folks like being asked interesting questions about themselves. Not obsessively, but so long as we’re faking normalcy, it’s a nice added touch.So that’s the basic rundown on how to survive a first (or second…or third) date after weight loss surgery.We won’t advise you on what to do after your date (especially when s/he walks you to the door…that’s your business) but using some or all of these tips will help ensure there is a next date! ) Dating can be a challenge to any woman, but particularly to the post-op woman.On the other hand, we don’t want to run down our medical histories to people we barely know. Well if you are a faithful BF reader, you should know the answer to this. This guide is geared more for the folks who don’t feel comfortable doing that…an equally valid choice, but often a difficult one to pull off. #1 – how are you supposed to get to know each other on a movie date?It would be very encouraging, and I think it would help reduce the stigma.But what happens is every time it’s found out that a straight guy is dating a trans woman, it’s like a big cover-up, like we gotta sweep this under the rug.
Because, for women especially, there is only a certain number of times you can get away with this. For your first sit down together, insist on picking the restaurant. Here are a few obvious no’s: For chain restaurants, it’s easier to go in with a plan.I think that there’s a lot of stigma out there, and I disagree with Laverne Cox saying that it’s more stigma for straight men dating trans women than it is for trans women; but I do agree with her when she says that we need our representative, you know?We need a straight man to stand up and say “yeah, I’m dating a trans woman” — like someone famous, a celebrity, something like that.Chances are you won’t have room, but just in case…don’t do it! Usually the server asks after you seem done with your food if you’d like dessert. Then, if your date wants dessert, you say, “no thanks, but I’d love a cup of decaf coffee.”Coffee sorta reads like dessert.Stop eating and linger over your plate about 20 minutes or so. By the time dessert comes, you’ve waitied your requisite 30 minutes between eating and drinking and now have yet another thing that it takes time to consume. A little more talking…hey this is going REALLY well isn’t it?